Do You Ask “What if…” Something Bad Happens?
We often think about what can go wrong in our lives. And, we’ve probably asked ourselves any of the following questions at some point: “What if…”
- I don’t get the job?
- We don’t get married?
- I lose my job?
- My Dad gets sick?
These questions are natural because our brain is hard-wired to think about the negative. It’s our brain’s way of protecting us – – by scanning for potential dangerous situations. In fact, this way of thinking used to help our ancestors avoid physical dangers such as saber-tooth tigers back in the day. These days, our brain still functions this way, but it’s usually more often when we anticipate emotional dangers such as losing a job or a loved one.
Although it’s responsible to consider ways to avoid being in a situation you don’t want, it can be even more powerful to think about what you do want. This isn’t just a hokey concept. It’s actually based in neuroscience.
Try This Instead…
If you focus on what you want and then ask “What if” I got the new job or loving relationship I desire, you’re more likely to attract it. It’s because we have a part of our brain called the RAS (Reticular Activating System). A quick description of it is that it serves to filter information coming in to our brains. This filtering is important because we have so much stimuli coming our way all day long. We need a way or system to process it.
You’re probably familiar with this concept even if you don’t know the scientific terms. For example, if you buy a red car, you suddenly see red cars every where you go. Your brain becomes primed to look for red cars. It’s not that – – all of a sudden – – there are more red cars on the street.
So, back to considering the question “What if…” and putting your attention on what’s possible. If you’re focusing on what you don’t want (e.g., to lose a job, etc.), you might attract more situations that will lead to sabotaging your job. But, if you focus on what you do want, your brain will notice situations, opportunities, and people that can support your desire to thrive.
Think about it…when considering what’s possible, it takes just as much energy and effort to focus on a positive outcome as it does a negative outcome. So, what will you choose today?
